Everyone has advice to give. Everyone has an opinion to express. Everyone has a solution to share. If only they would keep it to themselves.
Asperger’s syndrome isn’t a disease so much as it is a state of being. You either have it or you don’t. It isn’t something one is infected with, maliciously spreading throughout the brain over time.
However, many people mistakenly view Asperger’s as being threatening. They see it as the bane of human development. A problem needing to be fixed. A plague to be stamped out.
I’ll say it loudly so you can remember it: PEOPLE WITH ASPERGER’S DON’T NEED TO BE FIXED!
The most helpful thing you can do to assist with Asperger’s is to convince people to stop trying to help. Helping someone may be well meant, but it needs to be done for the right reasons. You wouldn’t help someone if you felt they didn’t have anything wrong with them. And you wouldn’t try to assist someone you felt was fully capable of taking care of their own selves.
Families of those with Asperger’s will have their own worries and fears about the condition. They’ll try to express sympathy and encourage their loved one with helpful tips for coping with their condition. They mean well, I’m sure.
You can’t help someone to live. Asperger’s syndrome has not kept anyone from enjoying a good hamburger or the company of true friends. People with autism know what they like. They don’t need someone to remind them of what they already know.
I have received dating advice from single guys. I’ve been the recipient of sympathy from people I have a great deal of pity for. I don’t think anyone is in a position to pull me out of any pit.
If someone wants to help a person diagnosed with Asperger’s, then they can do so by treating them as a human being. No one can fix Asperger’s. Neither should anyone try to fix each other. What people can do is recognize a person’s individual needs. People with autism don’t need help. They help others just as much as anyone else.